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Posted November 10, 2006
Questions
About Society, Family, and Marriage
The Academy received the following inquiry from
Felix who lives in Puerto Rico:
Felix: These quotes are from your essay
"A
Brief On Perennial Philosophy"; I have some
questions about them.
1. Quote: "We are
social beings. The tendency to perfection brings us
into contact with others. We establish families,
the first society in the order of time to ensure
the continuation of the human race and provide us
with personal and cultural
advantages."
Felix: What is the definition of a
family, according to perennial philosophy? Is it a
man and a woman? And if not necessarily, then what
do you mean by "the continuation of the human race"
and what are the necessary and sufficient
conditions to meet this criteria of
continuation?
If a man and a woman is the radical definition
of a family by perennial philosophy, then society
does have, in a sense, a definite structure in its
matrix (or at least on the family issue).
Dr. Dolhenty: This
is, believe it or not, a complex matter, especially
in today's society. There has been a good deal of
talk out there about the so-called "nuclear" family
-- that is, Mom, Dad, and 2.5 Children -- as if
this was the only way the term "family" should be
defined. Much of this has been directed toward a
political controversy involving the so-called "gay
marriage" issue.
The term "family" as used
by Classified Realists (or the perennial
philosophy) does not have a specific, determinant,
absolute, one-meaning-only type of characteristic.
It is a term which can have multiple meanings
depending upon the context in which it is used and
how it is used in that context.
The Webster's New World
Dictionary that I commonly use has seven
definitions for the term "family." The first one
is: "All the people living in the same house." This
is certainly at odds with the "nuclear" family
definition. It then goes on to say (second
definition): (a) a group consisting of the two
parents and their children, (b) the children of the
same parents, or (c) one's husband (or wife) and
children. Definition three says a family is a
"group of people related by blood or marriage;
relatives. And it continues on from there right
down to how the term "family" is used in the
science of biology (definition seven).
We humans can "form"
families in a variety of ways. The "nuclear" family
concept, while valuable in certain contexts, cannot
represent the whole range of how we use the term.
What about a widow with four children? What about a
widower with four children? What about a husband
and wife who cannot themselves produce children and
choose not to adopt them? Are they families or
not?
Moreover, consider the
first definition: "All the people living in the
same house." Nothing is noted there regarding
kinship by blood or marriage. Furthermore, I do not
have any immediate family currently living. I do,
however, have many very close friends here in my
community who also do not have an immediate family
and we spend holidays together, frequently
socialize together, and look out and care for one
another in a "family" way. Can we consider
ourselves a "family"? Why not?
Regarding the
"reproductive" issue (the continuation of the human
race), most human beings are naturally motivated to
form families for the purpose of producing and
caring for children. But, as can be seen by the
various meanings of the term "family" cited above,
this is not a "necessary" condition for the use of
the term "family" in a social context. While most
families may be formed to "ensure the continuation
of the human race," families may also be formed or
even "accidentally brought about" for other
purposes, such as friendship, companionship, and
love.
There is, in my view of
Classical Realism (or the perennial philosophy), no
fundamental requirement that a family consist of a
man and a woman, either with or without children.
You can have a single-parent family, a polygamous
family, a family of friends, an adoptive family,
and, yes, even a monastic family within a religious
order or community.
Nature has motivated us to
be social beings and to find our personal
"perfections" within social relationships. There
is, however, no specific, absolute "matrix" (or
blueprint or design) as to how this is to be
realized in the world. The term "family" is very
general and one will have to look at the context in
which it is being used to determine what it means
in any circumstance.
2. Quote: "No
determined form of society is established by
nature, and different forms can be constructed
according to the needs of the people or of the
times."
Felix: : I thought you said that the
family was driven by our tendencies or natural
desire for perfection and therefore nature (our
nature) establishes the family? According to you,
if this is right, nature does dictates a specific
form of society for its continuation and
betterment.
I am not sure in what sense you meant to say
this but if it is in the same sense as in the first
quote (meaning not a man and a woman necessarily),
then you are a relativist for political purposes
and you are making no sense at all. (I hope
not.)
Best regards, Felix
Dr. Dolhenty: The
above quote represents the view of Classical
Realism as I understand it. While human beings are
by nature "social," the specific "structure" any
society develops is a matter of time, place, or,
one can say, culture and history. Our "nature"
motivates us to form societies of "some form," and
it also motivates us to form families of "some
form." We, as human beings, are "perfected" (that
is, our needs and ends are met) within societies of
some form, including families, political
organizations, religious groups, hobby clubs, and
so on. To do so is a "natural" tendency built into
our very being.
The fact that "nature"
motivates us to form societies and families and so
forth does not mean that we are provided with a
specific "blueprint" or "flow chart" as to how
these phenomena are to be organized or structured.
So, "nature" does not "dictate" a specific form of
society. Nor, for that matter, does it "dictate" a
specific form of family. And, yes, there is a
"relativity" here.
I am not sure what you
mean when you say "then you are a relativist for
political purposes" or how that relates to the
issues discussed here. The terms "relativism" and
"absolutism" have been so misused lately, it's hard
to know what anyone means when they throw the terms
around. After all, everything in the universe is
"relative" to something else and, even in the realm
of ethics or moral philosophy, there is a
"relativism" which is quite rational, intelligible,
and appropriate. Please note that Aristotle, that
most profound of Classical Realists, defined
"virtue" as the "relative" mean between the
extremes of excess and defect.
So, the particular
structure a society or political entity or family
takes may be "relative" to the physical
environment, historical antecedents, common or
disparate ancestry, emotional characteristics of
the group or tribe, and this and that, and more
this and that, too many different properties to
even mention here. It is, as I've tried to
illustrate, a very complex matter. All human
beings, in the view of Classical Realism, share a
common human nature. How that human nature is
"expressed" or "realized," however, can be as
varied as the snowflakes that fall in a winter
storm.
And best regards to you,
Felix, and thanks for submitting your
questions.
Jonathan Dolhenty,
Ph.D.
President & Webmaster
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