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Helping
Your Adult Children, Part II
by Gary North, Ph.D.
Budgeting
For Independence
As of October 17, 2005, the new bankruptcy law
is in effect. This law will make it very difficult
for debtors to escape their creditors, especially
banks that have issued credit cards.
After October 16, adult children who are in debt
beyond their ability to repay will go looking for a
"bank" to tap into to delay the inevitable. It is
likely that their parents or in-laws will become
the prime lending agencies in the children's quest
to postpone the visible, inescapable recognition of
their own personal insolvency.
I hope that this report will serve parents as a
kind of inoculation against avian debt flu: money
that just flies away.
A Nation Of Debtors
The habit of personal thrift is becoming a rare
thing among Americans. A press release from the
Bureau of Economic Analysis indicates that the
personal savings rate has turned negative.
Personal saving -- DPI [disposable personal
income] less personal outlays -- was a negative
$61.8 billion in August (2005), compared with a
negative $100.9 billion in July (2005). Personal
saving as a percentage of disposable personal
income was a negative 0.7 percent in August,
compared with a negative 1.1 percent in July.
Negative personal saving reflects personal outlays
that exceed disposable personal income. Saving from
current income may be near zero or negative when
outlays are financed by borrowing (including
borrowing financed through credit cards or home
equity loans), by selling investments or other
assets, or by using savings from previous periods.
For more information, see the FAQs on "Personal
Saving" on BEA's Web site.
http://www.bea.doc.gov/bea/newsrel/pinewsrelease.htm
[In typical government fashion, when you go
to the site's FAQ list, there is nothing listed on
"personal saving." When you use the site's search
engine to locate "personal saving," the top item
listed is a 2003 table that is completely devoid of
figures. The BEA website's designer has taken
seriously Jesus' rule for giving: the right hand
knoweth not what the left hand doeth.]
The standard answer of happy-face economists is
three-fold: (1) capital gains are up, so people
save less; (2) businesses are saving enough to
provide economic growth; (3) foreigners are saving
enough to provide economic growth.
My responses: (1) the only sector of the
American investment market that is providing
capital gains is the housing market, which in fact
is not part of the capital market for anyone who
lives in his "capital"; (2) American businesses are
investing, but the stock market is nevertheless
going nowhere, and personal income is falling,
which indicates insufficient saving; (3) foreigners
are indeed investing here, which means they are
buying capital goods from Americans, whose economy
is running a $750 billion annual balance of
payments deficit.
Without the ingrained habit of thrift, the
triumph of the present over the future is
guaranteed. It takes self-discipline to set aside
money every month out of your income. At some
point, you don't make the monthly thrift payment.
Something comes up. It is easy the next month to
neglect the required sacrifice on behalf of the
future. The thrift habit is broken.
It is easier to break good habits than bad
habits. This is why most people cannot stick with a
diet. This is why it takes constant attention to
your budget plan to make sure that you are
systematically setting aside money for the
future.
Businessmen must save if their companies are to
prosper. This saving must be net saving, not just
the replacement of existing capital. This is
equally true of personal budgeting. You must save
for the car that will have to be replaced, the
water heater that must be replaced, and all the
other capital expenditures that will have to be
made because things wear out.
Then, on top of these basic replacement thrift
categories are your net savings. This systematic
sacrifice must be made on behalf of that ultimate
capital asset that is wearing out: you. The problem
is, this one cannot be replaced.
Who Will Teach Them?
Teenagers pick up the habit of thrift from
parents, assuming that parents explain it to their
children. Not many parents do because not many of
them possess the habit of thrift. Of those who do,
not many sit down with their teenagers to explain
it. Yet the basics are easy to convey, though not
easy to follow in today's present-oriented
culture.
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So, children rarely learn the discipline of
budgeting from their families. They may learn it
from other sources. But, on the whole, they learn
it from painful experience, which means after they
have run up their credit card debt and find that
they must get out of the trap or else declare
bankruptcy. Then they hear about Dave Ramsey or
some similar guru of credit card scissors.
As of October 17, 2005, they will not escape by
declaring bankruptcy.
So, parents who are thinking about helping their
adult children have a major problem: the spending
habits of their children, or one of the parties in
the marriage, are such that any financial
assistance will be money down a rat hole.
Parents are not in a position to ask to see the
child's household budget. This is considered an
invasion of privacy. But they can pick up signals
indirectly. They look for such signs as these:
expenditures that do not seem reasonable, given the
income associated with the working member's job. Do
the children buy their cars new? Do they buy new
furniture? Do they refuse to shop at the Salvation
Army or Good Will?
If parents decide to hand over a lot of money --
anything close to two months' income for the
children -- then they have an obligation to ask to
see the household budget. I am not speaking of a
unique, one-time gift of some consumer good. I mean
in response to a plea by the head of household for
aid. The request puts the child into a begging
mode. Beggars can't be choosers.
The Federal Reserve System sometimes lowers the
discount rate below market. It then gets requests
from banks to borrow this below-market money. At
that point, the FED can ask to see the books. I
suspect that the main reason for lowering the
discount rate is to flush out banks that are in
trouble.
I think parents should use the same tactic. If
you are becoming a banker for your adult child, you
have the banker's right -- indeed, obligation -- to
see the balance sheet of the borrower before
writing a check. You have the obligation to impose
a savings program.
How many parents do this? Not many. They just
write the checks. Yet they would not write these
checks if they knew that the marriage partner is an
alcoholic. They would know where the money will go.
But, short of a socially recognized addiction on
the part of one member of the receiving family,
parents feel under a moral obligation to write a
check, "just this once."
This moral obligation doesn't exist. In fact,
there is a moral obligation not to write the check.
Parents who want to avoid becoming dependent on the
State or their solvent children in their old age,
let alone insolvent children, have a moral
obligation to become and remain maniacal savers.
They must not break their own thrift habits for the
sake of financing children who do not know or
practice the basics of budgeting.
So, if a child comes to you for financial
assistance, lay down the law. The child must work
with you or a financial counselor to set up a
household budget. If necessary, the assisting
organization must control the checkbook. This may
be a church. It may be an independent organization.
The price of receiving parental aid is the
establishment of a tight budget by a third party.
The budget must involve the systematic repayment of
consumer debt.
Conclusion
He who pays the piper calls the tune. If an
adult child comes to you for financial aid, you
must not give it to him with no strings attached.
Such a request offers you a golden opportunity --
or at least a fiat money opportunity -- to examine
the budgetary causes of the request and to impose
budgetary restrictions on the use of your
money.
If you know the request is uncharacteristic and
based on a household emergency, you should
nevertheless consider whether you are the
appropriate source of funds. Why not a bank? What
is it that makes you the lender of first
resort?
Bad habits can be replaced by good habits at
some price. If your money will lower the price of
bad habits, then it is counter-productive. It is a
short-run fix to a long-run problem.
Your long-run financial goal should be to reduce
dependence: yours in the future and your children's
in the present. Make sure that your money is not
increasing dependence.
Dr.
Gary North earned a Ph.D. in history and is one of
America's keenest economic analysts and
commentators. He supports the Austrian school of
economics and is a previous assistant to
libertarian congressman Dr. Ron Paul. Visit his
website at http://garynorth.com.
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